Saturday, October 4, 2008
"Nothing but knowing you loved me, too. Just your heart, in exchange for mine."Yes ladies and gentleman, today my post shall be on the abstract yet unifying topic of love. Well I don't really profress or claim to be an expert on the subject, but this is after all my blog so I shall air my views. Love..is a most beautiful emotion. And yet, under circumstances, it can turn most appalling, painful, ugly, mutated. Such an emotion can indeed be only felt by we humans, a most complex species as we are.
They often say: True love is unconditional. If you loved someone, you wouldn't demand anything in return. You would not want her affection back, you would not want your love to be rewarded, because for you the feeling of being loved is already enough. However, I have some friends who say,"I have an unconditional love for [Insert girl's name here]. For me, loving her is its own reward." Well while I often try not to chortle at this statement, I cannot help but notice the sheer irony in it. They claim their love is unconditional, and yet they only love "her" because they get a kick out of "loving". That's not unconditional. The condition, the reward was the feeling of loving someone. Of course, it is less conditional than say affections being returned or material rewards, but this does not make the statement any less ironic. The fact is, unconditional love is far and far between. In a world where capitalist values are,well, valued above other things, it would seem that most love has been "conditionalized".
Sounds pessimistic, doesn't it? Christian conservatives quickly point to Jesus Christ and God, saying how their God's love must be unconditional, that he loves us even though he didn't need to, and how he gave his only son to die for us, etc. Nothing against the Christian religion, but bollocks say I. But for the love of God, I shall not try to turn this into a philosophical post, so please turn to my other blog if you want to view this argument.
Back on topic, on teenage love and relationships. Heh, nothing much to say here. Many say that this sort of love is "puppy love", that it won't last, that its just having a fling, etc. And yet, I have seen successful cases, friends and cousins and relatives who got married with their crush from high school/secondary school, lovers faithful to the end. Such cases only renew my faith that love is possible, even amongst raging hormones which shift attitudes as quickly as China food scares. Sure, 90% of teen BGRs end in failure, but oh well, there is that 10% which succeeds. Conditional?I don't know. Unconditional? I can't say for sure either.
And so, love. An idealized version of human spirit, inspiring us over the decades with its capacity to bring out the best in humanity. Without love, I doubt we would be here, but oh well. Love is blind, after all.
They often say: True love is unconditional. If you loved someone, you wouldn't demand anything in return. You would not want her affection back, you would not want your love to be rewarded, because for you the feeling of being loved is already enough. However, I have some friends who say,"I have an unconditional love for [Insert girl's name here]. For me, loving her is its own reward." Well while I often try not to chortle at this statement, I cannot help but notice the sheer irony in it. They claim their love is unconditional, and yet they only love "her" because they get a kick out of "loving". That's not unconditional. The condition, the reward was the feeling of loving someone. Of course, it is less conditional than say affections being returned or material rewards, but this does not make the statement any less ironic. The fact is, unconditional love is far and far between. In a world where capitalist values are,well, valued above other things, it would seem that most love has been "conditionalized".
Sounds pessimistic, doesn't it? Christian conservatives quickly point to Jesus Christ and God, saying how their God's love must be unconditional, that he loves us even though he didn't need to, and how he gave his only son to die for us, etc. Nothing against the Christian religion, but bollocks say I. But for the love of God, I shall not try to turn this into a philosophical post, so please turn to my other blog if you want to view this argument.
Back on topic, on teenage love and relationships. Heh, nothing much to say here. Many say that this sort of love is "puppy love", that it won't last, that its just having a fling, etc. And yet, I have seen successful cases, friends and cousins and relatives who got married with their crush from high school/secondary school, lovers faithful to the end. Such cases only renew my faith that love is possible, even amongst raging hormones which shift attitudes as quickly as China food scares. Sure, 90% of teen BGRs end in failure, but oh well, there is that 10% which succeeds. Conditional?I don't know. Unconditional? I can't say for sure either.
And so, love. An idealized version of human spirit, inspiring us over the decades with its capacity to bring out the best in humanity. Without love, I doubt we would be here, but oh well. Love is blind, after all.
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